Most men know nothing about picking out lingerie, which is understandable because it can be confusing. What type of lingerie to buy, what size, what color – how is a man to know? Here is a little guide to help you when choosing lingerie for that special someone.

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Understanding Her Preferences

There are a few things to consider before you go out. What does she like? Remember that you will not be wearing this – she will and you should go out with the intent on getting something she will like. If she is not into lacey, tiny, see-through teddies, chances are if you buy that, she will not be in much of a mood to wear it and you may never see it. So keep what she likes in mind.

Checking Her Wardrobe

If you do not know, check out her nightgown/lingerie drawer before you leave. Check for material type (cotton, silk, etc.), colors, and most importantly, size. She may be flattered if she wears a large and you get her a small, but if she wears a small and you buy her a large, you may find yourself in trouble. Avoid anything that says “control” on the label. Those items are used to firm and flatten tummys and rears and she would probably not appreciate receiving them as a gift.

Presentation Matters

Another thing to remember is if the store offers to wrap the lingerie let them. Dainty lingerie will look better in their wrapping than if you wrap it in the paper left over from your cousin’s birthday. Presentation is part of the package with lingerie. Also, if you are uncomfortable in the store, check out online stores that sell lingerie. You can always start at Victoria’s Secret, but most major department stores like Macys and Nordstroms also sell lingerie. Final note – remember to keep your receipt just in case it is the wrong style, size, or color.

Types of Lingerie

Now, what type of lingerie is available? Just about anything you can think of! Ask yourself what the occasion is. Is this to let her know you love her? If so, something crotchless or see-through probably will not send that message. But, if it is for Valentine’s Day or your anniversary, something a little more risqué might be appreciated. Bras alone have many different styles including push up, plunge, gel filled, padded, underwire, seamless, backless, strapless, open cup, and unpadded.

Matching Sets

If you are purchasing a bra and panty set, always check out what she has in her drawer beforehand and definitely make note of the size – of both the bra and panties. Most places sell at least one pair of panties that match each bra, but some will sell several so you can mix and match. It will help to know what type of panties she likes to wear too – thongs, briefs, or high cut bikini.

Sleepwear Options

When it comes to sleepwear, it can be just as confusing. Babydoll pajamas are very popular and usually made out of silk or satin, materials that always make a woman feel good about herself. Gowns are full-length versions of the babydoll, often see-through or lacey, perfect for setting the mood. Pajama sets, especially silky ones, can also make her feel sexy. Boxer sets with tight tops have become trendy lately.

Exploring Specialty Lingerie

For a more adventurous choice, consider stores like Frederick’s of Hollywood (available online). They offer garter belts, bustiers, corsets, teddies (similar to babydolls but one piece), crotchless panties, and fishnet stockings – items that may not be available at many stores.

Considering Her Self-Esteem

What type of lingerie you should get your love depends a lot on her self-esteem. Many women love sexy lingerie, but some may prefer less revealing options. Most stores sell lingerie in plus sizes, which are a little less revealing.

Final Tips

When shopping for lingerie, try to keep in mind what she likes. If you purchase something similar to the lingerie she already has and in colors you know she likes, it will probably make her happy. But, keep the receipt just in case!